Re: Why is it sex the only thing guys are looking for nowadays?! O_O
As a guy I would like to reply to this.
Males are at a genetic, evolutionary level, meant to spread as many gametes as possible so that his genetic material will have the best chance for their DNA to replicate into the next generation.
Females, at this level, are looking to choose the best DNA traits to get get passed on. Such traits are size, aggressiveness, plumage, courting call: w/e.
Humans have taken this genetic race to another level by inventing a complex social-societal ritual. The reason for this evolution is to provide children with skills they need in order to better survive until they themselves can reproduce. The type of ritual depends entirely on the culture at large and is instilled in us from birth onwards. These rituals include sexual selection.
Males from around the world have traditionally utilized skill based displays, such as tilling the land or running a company to attract female attention.
Female have traditionally made themselves look and act like the perfect providers to attract male attention. a.k.a corsets, foot binding, child rearing, and the whole domestic thing
This idea of love and relationship evolved out of the Victorian period. Before then it was strictly based on "skill value" a.k.a what each party could provide for an equal exchange. So a stone mason could marry a farmers daughter but a king could not. The Victorians said that this idea of skill exchange was incorrect and went against nature and insisted that this was not socially acceptable. That instead individuals had to only prove themselves only to one another.
The Beatniks and hippies then continued this line of thought and said that even this idea of one partner and marriage was against nature/ society and started to promote free love where any individuals would sleep with anyone else. because that is what happens at the Primordial level.
(However, This ideology soon fell apart because of the social-societal rituals demanded monogamy and gender rolls.)
In short you and him were operating in different levels and looked at the same issues from different points of view. Please do not generalize all Males and immature teen boys as one in the same. Its offensive and bias. Hope you find the guy your looking for.