Re: Possibly a change in cj rules?
I'll start this by saying that Scorps's statement just about 99% implies that it's a basically DNR in the first place. At least it seemed pretty evident to me anyway lol. Just saying.
Anywho as for the other stuff, it's not going to work out.
The thing is, the goal for a mod checking CJs is to check as many CJs possible within a given amount of time while still checking them thoroughly. It's not necessarily our job to help you get them approved. When I check a CFS or CE jutsu, I usually write quite a bit in my notes to the submitter unless it's an extremely simple reason, but that's because there aren't anywhere near as much CFSes or CE techniques being submitted at any given time as there are normal CJs. As Mathias said above, in a CJ thread the mods aren't going to babysit you and walk you step by step through every technique that you submit. Usually we'll give reasons, but the reason that it's not required is because it slows down the process and sometimes there are just too many different things wrong with it to the point that if the submitter would just take a moment to read other CJ submissions to get the grasp on what's acceptable and what isn't, or maybe even just think for a moment, they would be able to figure out at least some of the things that were wrong with they're submissions. And honestly, like I said before, I think that with Scorps's statement was already fairly clear with what it implied lol. If you want it in other words here ya go: "I'm not going to approve Flying Boots." Which is essentially the equivalent of a DNR considering that the entire basis of your technique are a pair of flying boots. Again, not everything needs to be spelled out. Flying boots are the reason why your CJ is declined. It's fairly obvious that there's nothing that you can edit except using something other than flying boots.
As for your whole reason or DNR request. I think that you're just about the only member who would actually prefer someone to just immediately DNR something that they can't give a precise reason on it rather than simply decline and leave it up to you to resubmit. That said, it's not going to happen. This isn't for the sake of the mods, this is for the sake of the members to not get half of their submissions DNRed.
As for your infraction. He has every right to do so, it's a rule that you can't VM mods about their checking submissions. He can choose to discuss it with you through VMs, but he has no obligation to. And he has the choice to infract you if he wants. Mods get tons of VMs all the time, we don't need VMs about submissions that we already went through and may not even remember in addition to the ones that we already get. The definition that you gave of bugging is an extreme definition with obvious hyperbole, and it's ridiculous to compare what you did to that. However it's been considered bugging for a while now right off the bat the moment that you VM a mod about a submission. What they choose to do is completely their choice, no matter how respectfully or disrespectfully you believe that asked, and whether you agree with the decision or not. You said that you've seen it done before, and I'm sure you have. However, it's the mods choice whether to answer, ignore, or infract. They have the right to do any one of these.
What we can do, and what might be a more reasonable suggestion, is create a thread in the jutsu section (I know that we have one in Konoha already, dunno about other villages) where people may discuss a technique to try and get it approved IF they're willing to help; this thread would hold no obligations whatsoever. However, know that as in the one that we have in Konoha, mods won't be able to post to help you at all since that would make them in a sense biased (for lack of a better way to explain this) to that submission. But there are plenty of other experienced RPers and senseis who know just as well how to get a CJ approved.