Love is strange
I've been thinking about relationships lately and one thing I don't quite understand is why do some people consider their relationships with their girlfriend/boyfriend more important than those with their actual friends?
With me personally, I've never felt this way and I've always held my friends in the highest regard; this being because I've known them for over 10 years, we never fought, and I feel a sense of kinship with them.
We've been through so much together that it is hard to replace that feeling or even take comfort in a significant other.
Not necessarily with my friends in particular, but just in general, I notice that many a times when a man or women ends up in a relationship, they basically fall of the plant and completely forget their friends.
This most recently happened to my friend's cousin(who are pretty close friends); he used to hangout with us, then once he got a girlfriend we basically stopped hearing from him.
I can understand it's hard to make time for both, but I don't understand how one can prioritize something like that. When in a relationship, it always feels so constrained. There are expectations most of the time.
-Going on dates
-Respecting each other
-Watching movies together
-Maintaining a certain quality of appearance
But when with friends, at least with mine, you can just hangout just to hangout without having any expectations. You don't always have to be doing something fun and interesting; having a beer together is enough. You can talk about things you can't really say with your significant other and you can make a fool of yourself and laugh it off together.
Most of the times, relationships are fleeting and temporary, whereas friendship is long-lasting.
So I just can't understand how some people consider their temporary significant other more important than their long-lasting friends, even going as far as to ruin some friendships because of them.
Why are people so concerned with dating(aside for lustful reasons)?
But what's even more ironic is when someone is married, it's the complete opposite of everything I've mentioned.
I just wanted to get your point of views